Getting divorced is never going to be easy. It’s obviously a huge change and it’s a representative of a range of emotional and stressful issues which you need to deal with. That doesn’t mean that there are no ways to try to improve the ordeal. That’s why an increasing contingent of divorcing couples are now turning to divorce mediation as opposed to the more typical courtroom battle. Understanding why sheds light on the trend and may end up changing your own mind, too.
Besides the direct changes to your life as you get divorced, involving everything from your living arrangements and finances and on down the line, the three toughest aspects are generally how much time you spend, how much stress you experience, and how much money you spend. With divorce mediation, it’s possible that you reduce all three of these burdens collectively.
Divorce mediation typically offers a swifter resolution than a courtroom case would. You can immediately go to work, so to speak, and produce an outcome, as opposed to waiting for a trial date and dealing with all the preparation and the aftermath. You’ll still need to wait for that hearing date to make it official, however, the “work” will have already long been done. When you spend less time in preparation and in court, you also save money too, because you’re paying your attorney for less of his or her time.
Both of the above inevitably reduces the stress you’re under and your emotional burden during the process. You’re also not stressed with what a judge is going to say or rule during the case.
Another huge selling point for divorce mediation is that it puts the power of the outcome in your hands, or more accurately, in the hands of the attorneys representing both parties. When you go in front of a judge and it’s entirely up to them how certain matters are handled, you’re at risk of essentially losing out on everything that’s important to you in the case. It’s not unusual for parties to be both shocked and disappointed with how a judge rules during a divorce case.
With divorce mediation though, you get some of that control back. Yes, you’ll have to compromise, which likely means surrendering something that matters to you. However, it’s on your terms, and you get to advocate for what’s most important to you specifically.
Divorce mediation isn’t right for every person or every situation. It’s also always important to consult with experienced lawyers in your local area who can advise you on your options and what may be best given the specifics of your case. However, there are certainly many positives and benefits which are worth considering.